The above question is one most people recognize as a conversation filler or a casual conversation food. It is mostly used between friends who are very familiar and talk often with each other. A more formal version of it does exist in the form of, "What are you working on?" usually used to ask what new projects or goals this person is working on at that point in life. Also exists "What have you been up to?" used between acquaintances who have not met for a long time. Out of the three, guess which one I don't want to hear from a random stranger.
Correct answer is obviously in the title: "Hey, what are you up to?" or "what are you doing?" Why? Because to be perfectly, completely honest... I do not have any interest in holding meaningless conversation with strangers. Holding meaningless conversation is reserved for those people whose company I enjoy. Meaningless conversation is held when you wish to have social contact with someone but lack real conversation material to initiate a conversation with them.
It's almost like one of those random parents who come and talk to you about their kid and what they're doing and how they're coming along this path called life... You don't care. Same goes for me when someone comes up to me and starts talking to me about what they did in some game or another or how the day's going for them... etc. etc. Why would I be interested in such things? I know I'm coming off really bitchy right now but when people come and talk to me about their day I need to have a connection with the person to really feel interested in it. I'm sorry, I really don't have an interest that you went 7/3/10 with Katarina last game and I don't really care for how your day's been so far either. Just the same as if I had turned around and said much the same stuff to you randomly expecting you to give an answer.
The only reason anyone would give two shits about what I've done or what's been going on in my life is because I put up a handful of videos online and have developed a persona for viewers to get familiar with. Note that the familiarity does not go the other way too. I can't feel the same familiarity with the viewer. Therefore, don't talk to me unless you have REAL conversation. One that actually requires my participation. Just saying hi? That's fine.
I say hi to you a lot im to scared to talk to you though. I understand what you mean though maybe thats why i have no friends because i tell them off when they come off with stupid conversations.
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